REAP Principle 48: Know Thyself

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September 27, 2026•13 min read

About ten years ago I met Ron Boling through BiggerPockets. He was just another person in the real estate world who invited me out to talk. A year later he had his real estate license, and a while after that he asked to join my brokerage. I started showing him how to buy properties. Then one day he came into the office and told me he had passed on a deal he was looking at, and asked if I would do it with him. I said no way. I had been doing this by myself for years, it worked, and I was not going to partner up. Then my coach at the time, who coached us both, told me I should partner with Ron, and handed me the book Rocket Fuel. There is a visionary and there is an integrator, and Ron looked a lot like an integrator. So we partnered. I had the vision, Ron had the system capacity to get things done, and together we grew to about a hundred doors. If either of us had tried it alone, it would have been miserable, and probably worse for me, because I am the one who creates the chaos.

REAP Principle 48: know thyself.

I love the old English, which is why the principle reads that way. The idea behind it came from Tony Robbins in Awaken the Giant Within. If you know yourself, you can make changes and adjustments, because the only constant you carry into money, relationships, health, and business is you. Everything else changes. You persist.

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Your Wiring Runs Your Portfolio

Ask yourself who controls your portfolio. If the answer is not you, then someone else's wiring runs it, and your wiring is what allowed them to. Who picked them? You did. Who picked the portfolio, the capital stack, the tenants, the staff, the location? You did. Your wiring is in every one of those decisions.

This is not a judgment of right and wrong personalities. There is a way of wiring yourself that makes money and a way that lets time go by without making money. Most of us have been very successful at the second one at some point.

It matters now because the market has changed. Real estate went up until 2022, and then it went sideways with a slight descending channel. When we charted it against the long run average, sideways for about the next two years looks about right. The silver tsunami is part of the reason. When an owner passes away, there is no next purchase. The player leaves the game, and that adds supply.

In a market like that, copying what worked in 2021 without looking at the people involved gets expensive. Here is what that looks like:

Following without checking. Doing what someone else did, in the market they did it in, at the time they did it. If I say something on a call today, do not watch the recording two years from now and do it without doing your own due diligence.
Assuming every rule applies. The popular rules of thumb for screening a rental are shortcuts, not verdicts. None of them accounts for a changing market or for your ability to manage. A deal that fits the criteria can still be the wrong deal for you, because you, the operator, make or break the deal.
Judging yourself by outcomes you were never built to produce. If Ron were on stage and I were in the back office, we would both be worse at our jobs.
Misreading the signals. Treating stress, avoidance, and burnout as discipline problems instead of design problems. If you are exhausted, the system, the partner, or the structure is usually what is wrong.

Builder, Allocator, Lender, Steward

Here is the REAP lens. Know your wiring, then choose your seat.

Builders acquire and improve. They are wired for action, construction, and value creation. They see a problem and smell the opportunity instantly. I told my own staff recently that we are fixers. We are not creating fresh inventory. We see a leak, we fix it. We see a dirty or outdated unit, we fix it.

Allocators decide where equity goes next. They are wired for analysis, strategy, and capital deployment. This is where I sit most. I am a little nerdy. The first thing I built with AI was a set of algorithms to project what my portfolio might look like if I did this or that.

Lenders deploy capital against other people's work. They are wired for patience, underwriting, and detachment. They like to let the money do the work while they spend their time where and with whom they want.

Stewards hold, protect, and pass on. They are wired for preservation, legacy, and long horizons.

Most people on the call found a little of themselves in each seat. I have admired each one at different times in my life. That is fine. The goal is not to fit one box. The goal is to know where you default, and to notice when you are sitting in a seat that does not fit.

The core principle in Alchemist Nation is return on equity: return on your time, your education, your dollars, and your relationships. Equity is earned by the decisions you make under pressure, and pressure reveals temperament.

A few patterns show up again and again. The impulsive buyer jumps in at the top because missing out feels worse than overpaying. The cautious owner holds trapped equity for decades because selling feels like a risk. The controller refuses to delegate and caps the portfolio at what one person can carry. I have met more controllers than anyone else, and by the time the cautious ones get to me, most of them have become controllers.

Every personality also does better at some of the five stages than others: acquire, improve, exit, convert, and legacy. Nobody hits all five perfectly. Some stages will feel easy and some will feel hard. If you meet resistance, get someone to talk it through with. If a stage feels too easy, get someone to talk to as well, because you may not have thought it out.

The Five Question Self Audit

This week we put a new beta assessment on the Alchemist Nation dashboard: 32 questions that blend DISC, Myers Briggs, and the financial blueprints we have used in this community over the years. If you do not want to take all 32, start with these five.

One. Decision style. How do you make decisions when the pressure is on? Fast or slow? Alone or with counsel? Not the everyday decisions. The high stakes ones.

Two. Core values. What do you actually value most: control, freedom, income, recognition, or security? You do not have to tell anyone. But these five lead to different places, and the people you attract depend on which one is driving.

Three. Energy audit. What work gives you energy and what work drains you? Networking drains me. Sitting with AI and building tools lights me up for hours. And yet I make far more money when I am out networking, so I find a way to enjoy it while I am in the room.

Four. Pattern recognition. Where did your last three bad decisions come from, the market or your wiring? It is easy to blame the market. The market is like the weather. It does what it does. Were there fundamentals you let slide? Or was it a true black swan nobody could have seen? If it was the second, underwrite for it next time.

Five. Seat selection. Which seat in the life cycle fits you, and which seats could you hire or partner for?

This is really a behavioral assessment more than a personality one. It measures how you behave behind the scenes, the habits that run no matter how you feel. If everything is working, keep going. If there is one thing to tweak, tweak it.

Every Partnership Has Two Profiles

Every lender has a borrower. Every seller has a buyer. Every visionary has an integrator. Ron and I are the proof in my own business, and I see the same thing in the operators I respect most. The visionary needs someone who handles the decisions and the day to day, and often for decades.

You are unique, which is both a strength and a challenge, because you tend to attract people who are wired close to you. In a partnership you want the opposite strengths on the other side of the table.

Four Reflective Questions

These are for you alone.

Which seat are you sitting in today, and did you choose it or inherit it? I watched the Pixar movie Elemental with my son recently. A daughter keeps insisting she is not good at running her father's store, and he keeps saying he cannot wait for her to take it over. Much of her struggle comes from trying to fit a mold that was never hers, until he finally tells her to go do what she wants. Sometimes we sit in seats because of family. Sometimes it is because we saw a coaching program or a person we modeled and decided we had to be that. Sometimes we saw something we did not want to be and swung hard the other way.

What decisions have you been avoiding, and what does the avoidance say about your wiring? I know people who avoid underwriting deals and would rather just close. People who avoid looking at the bank account. People in this community who avoid filling in their Net Worth Tracker, even though it takes a few minutes to dial in.

Where in your portfolio is your personality costing you return on equity? If you do not have a real estate portfolio, look at your time portfolio: your morning hours, afternoon hours, and sleep hours. If you do have one, there is always a dog. With one property, it can be your cash cow and your dog at the same time. With ten, one of them is the dog. Rank your properties with the return on equity calculator and the dog usually becomes obvious. Your output there is a calculation from your own inputs, not a prediction, but it is a far better starting point than a feeling.

Who around you is wired for the seats you keep trying to fill yourself? I ask this about my AI tools now as much as my staff. Which one is best at this task? Who already has the talent?

Then take the assessment and finish this sentence: I am wired for ____, which means my best seat in the life cycle is ____.

You can also convert from one seat into the next while you are still doing the work of the seat you are in today. Ron and I talked about this recently. You move in sequence. I will not try to do everything at once.

Six Common Mistakes

Using the assessment as an excuse. It does not matter what type you come out as. Every person is wired for money.

Treating one test as gospel. Your mood and your influences change your answers. I used to take personality tests right after reading Grant Cardone and come out a little more intense than I really am. Take it when you are quiet, take it more than once, and be honest, because if you have taken enough of these you know how to game them.

Assuming partners are wired like you. Nobody is wired like you. Build the partnership around opposite strengths.

Building the wrong business. Building the business your mentor should have built, not the one that fits your wiring. I once ran a brokerage because my mentor ran one and I wanted to add value to him. I could not stand it. Ron could not stand it. We got rid of it.

Confusing can with should. Lately I hear constantly that I should teach a course on AI. Maybe I will. But just because you can does not mean you should.

Ignoring inconvenient results. A result you do not like is still real. Credit card debt is an inconvenient fact, and it is also a changeable one. Find the solution and make that the fun part.

Change Your Story

The first time I heard about Awaken the Giant Within, Brandon Turner from BiggerPockets said it changed his life. I bought it, watched a couple of Tony Robbins videos, and decided it was too woo woo for me. I did not read it. A few years later, after my divorce, working as an agent and sitting in sales trainings, I finally opened it and thought I should have read it years earlier.

Robbins talks about changing your story. I realized the one time my success really took off was when my story about myself changed, and someone else started it. I was walking a building with a realtor, looking at three boilers in a property I planned to buy. On the phone, he described me with a label I had never given myself. When he hung up I pushed back. I was just buying one building. He asked if I planned to buy more, and when I said yes, he told me the label fit, and that if I did not want him to use it that was fine. I told him to keep using it. I had assumed my next property was three years away. I bought it six months later.

After that I started rewriting other stories. I was not good with money, so what if I decided I was a good money manager? I could not remember wealth principles, so what if I could? I was bad with names, so what if I was good with them? Changing the story changed the results.

The Takeaway

Know yourself, choose your seat, then place the equity. A personality or behavioral assessment does not define you. It shows you what has been predictable in your life up to today, and that can change. Jeff Bezos talks about Day One companies, the ones built around change and growth, versus Day Two companies that stagnate and eventually die. It is possible to let the old version of yourself go and still be here.

And remember the other half. Other people's wiring is just as valid as yours, and you cannot change someone by wanting to. People change from their own motivation. The good news is that you control your goal and you control your motivation.

Principle 48 sits inside a full year of these frameworks, and the complete list lives in the 52 wealth principles. If you want a quick read on your own tendencies before the full assessment, find out what kind of real estate operator you are. And if the partnership section hit home, REAP Principle 35 on building an awesome team is the natural next step.